If you’ve ever worked in healthcare—or know someone who has—you’ve probably heard about the long hours, high stress, and emotional toll the job can take. As a dentist with a full patient schedule, administrative responsibilities, community service commitments, and a family at home, I understand this first-hand. But I’ve also learned that caring for others begins with caring for yourself. And that’s not just a feel-good sentiment—it’s a professional necessity.
Over the years, I’ve had to redefine what balance means in my life. It’s not about perfection or having every piece in place all the time. It’s about making small, intentional choices that protect my physical, mental, and emotional well-being. Here’s how I prioritize wellness and self-care, and why it matters so much for healthcare professionals like me.
Understanding the Burnout Risk
Burnout in healthcare isn’t rare—it’s common, and it’s real. Long hours, emotional fatigue, and the constant pressure to perform can take a serious toll. For those of us in patient-facing roles, there’s also the added challenge of being “on” all the time—compassionate, patient, and precise.
Early in my career, I thought exhaustion was just part of the job. I powered through lunches, stayed up late doing notes, and said yes to everything. But over time, I started to feel depleted. I realized that if I didn’t take my own well-being seriously, I wouldn’t be able to show up as the dentist—or the person—I wanted to be.
Setting Boundaries in the Workplace
One of the biggest game-changers for me has been setting boundaries. As healthcare professionals, we’re naturally driven to help. But we also have to protect our time and energy.
For me, this means having clear office hours—and sticking to them. I used to stay late for just one more patient or answer emails late into the evening. Now, I block out time during the week for administrative tasks and make sure I leave room in my schedule for breaks. It’s a simple change, but it’s made a big difference in how I feel at the end of the day.
Setting boundaries also includes learning to say no when needed. Whether it’s declining an extra committee role or rescheduling a non-urgent meeting, I’ve learned that protecting my energy allows me to give better care when it truly matters.
Finding Joy in Movement
Dentistry is a physically demanding profession—hours on our feet, leaning over patients, focused on precision. That’s why I make it a point to stay active outside the office. For me, that means regular workouts, hikes through New Jersey’s beautiful trails, and even just walking my rescue dog every evening.
I’m not training for marathons or chasing intense fitness goals. I’m moving to stay grounded, relieve stress, and keep my body strong. It’s amazing how a simple 30-minute walk can clear your mind and lift your mood after a long day.
Nourishing Body and Mind
Nutrition plays a huge role in how we feel—something I remind my patients about all the time, and try to practice myself. I used to grab whatever I could between patients: coffee, granola bars, whatever was quick. Now, I plan my meals with care. I prep healthy snacks, stay hydrated, and eat balanced meals that actually fuel me through the day.
Mental nourishment is just as important. I’m a big believer in the power of reading and quiet time. Whether it’s a novel, a devotional, or a professional journal, setting aside time to read helps me disconnect from the noise and reconnect with what matters.
Staying Connected with What Matters
It’s easy to lose sight of who you are outside of your scrubs or white coat. That’s why I prioritize time with family and friends, and protect my weekends as much as possible. We go to local art festivals, take day trips, or just enjoy quiet evenings at home. These moments refill my cup.
I also make time for things that bring me joy: my dog, gardening, music, and being involved in my community. They remind me that I’m not just Dr. Roberts—I’m Jolee, too.
Building a Support System
No one can do it alone. Whether it’s leaning on family, talking to a mentor, or connecting with colleagues through professional associations, building a support system is key.
I’ve found great comfort in the dental community, especially among fellow women in healthcare. We share stories, advice, and laughs. Knowing you’re not alone in your challenges can be incredibly empowering.
Giving Yourself Grace
Most importantly, I’ve learned to give myself grace. There will be days when the to-do list doesn’t get done, when the workout gets skipped, or when dinner is takeout instead of homemade. That’s okay. Balance isn’t about doing everything perfectly. It’s about listening to your body and knowing when to push and when to pause.
Final Thoughts
As healthcare professionals, we are caregivers by nature. But we must remember that our own health matters, too. When we invest in our well-being, we’re not just better providers—we’re better people, partners, friends, and parents.
To any fellow dentists or medical professionals reading this: make time for yourself. Say yes to rest. Find your version of balance. Your patients—and your future self—will thank you.